Find personal reward in your success. Don’t feel like a failure if you don’t get support or encouragement. Compliments are nice and great to keep you motivated but sometimes we are surrounded by people who are miserable themselves and they can’t afford to offer you positivity. Learn to shield. Shield yourself from the jealous, negative energy that some people can spew. It’s not you that is lacking or not measuring up. This stems from something with in themselves. And remember that true family and friends are happy for your successes. They want to encourage you and lift you up not try to knock you down and make you feel inadequate despite your milestones. I get a large mixed bag of responses about my lifestyle and most of them are unfortunately negative or critical at the least. I get comment such as these: “It must be nice to have time to work out” “It must be nice to stay at home all day and work on yourself” “If I had (____________) I could be vegan too” “Aren’t you too old to run” “Aren’t you afraid your putting too much stress on your body at your age?” “Being vegan, you are not getting enough nutrition for your physical lifestyle.” “I wish I had your energy.” This is just a sample of comments I get regularly and I get very frustrated. These are just the ones related to my diet and exercise, let’s not even get into the ones on spirituality. I have to be my own advocate in those quiet moments when I let people get me down. I have to remind myself that I am ONLY 37 years old. I am making my health a priority. I FIND time now for me because for too long I came last and my health and well being suffered for it. I run a small business, I write book reviews, I teach the craft online, amongst many other things, like being a wife and a mom to 3 very involved kids in school activities. My schedule is crazy and I go go go from 6 am to 9:30 pm every single day. I am a cook, a taxi cab, an accountant, a planner, a maid, a hair dresser, a therapist, a mediator, ……………………………………….. It is more often than not that the only hour a day I get to relax, meditate, clear my mind, or be inside my own head is when I am running or exercising because the Gods know I can’t shower or use the rest room without children (or the husband if I am honest) in the room or shouting at the door. AND for the love of the GODDESS……………….I am NOT VEGAN!!! I am vegetarian. I just stopped correcting people out of frustration. And my nutrition if better than it’s ever been. I know many of my readers know exactly what I am talking about. Mom’s (and Dads) these days are stretched very thin and I want you all to know that it is okay to take that time for yourself and screw what other people think because they are just jealous. They are jealous because you are becoming the best you for yourself and your family while they are still making excuses. We make time for those things that we value the most. That should be yourself and your family. Find your way of clearing your head, of meditating and of letting things go. I do this when preferably running or exercising in whatever kind of boring gym cardio I am up to. When I am done the weight on my chest is lifted and I can leave it all behind. I can work out issues and become at peace with things that bothered me. Stress is aging and harmful to our health. Find your way of letting it go. Life is too short to get caught up in other people’s expectations. Let them worry about their own life and someday you can see how that worked out for them. The only regret you will have when you are leaving this world is what YOU have done not what other people thought of it.
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